How attraction works 101 – When it comes to human to human attraction, there are so many parts of it that it is really hard to explain. But simply put, there are a few ways to make yourself more attractive to others. There are a few sets of attraction points that can set you apart from your other mating opponents.
We will explore some of the interesting parts of how attraction works through this 101 post and lets share and discuss this one point at a time.
So there are 4 parts to what we believe are the key attraction points that will get you the attention and time of the girl of your dreams, the love of your life:
- Physical Attraction
- Emotional Attraction
- Intellectual Attraction
- Social Attraction
So what exactly are this 4 attractions you might be asking, lets dive deeper into this topics:
Physical Attraction
Humans are visual and physical creatures. The first thing that any gender does is to look at the other party and within a split second decide he or she is attractive. As simple as that, physical attraction is the first cut off for anyone who wants to be in the game of attraction. If you are someone who is born tall with a nicely chiseled body, lets just say that you are already half way into the game.
Physical attraction is not just the nice body or the nice face though. There are things that you are born with like your height, your facial features, the amount of hair you have or the shape of your body. This things you cannot really control or change.
But there are things that you can change, you can go to the gym and build a little bit more muscle. Muscles are a sign of strength and something that many people do not know about, is that a muscular man looks more appealing because it is something in-built in the mind of woman to prefer and like muscular man. When you go back thousands of years, the man with muscles are the ones that are able to get food home and hunt well. This is something that has evolved over many years in the human race. So get those muscles coming up.
Also even though muscles are not that practical in this time and age, having a little build makes a woman feel more secure because she knows that you are not a push over and will be able to protect her when there is a need to.
You can also dress well and look good. Well tailored shirt together with a nice looking suit can be something you could easily purchase and add on to that physical shine of yours. No one likes a person who dresses in a baggy manner with sleeves that are too long or pants that touch the ground.
If you are dressing in a casual manner, be properly casual. A white top together with jeans and white shoes can never go wrong. Be able to pair your clothes up and look up online on how to dress and look well. Style is something you can easily win over men who are better looking than you.
Emotion Attraction
Would you rather marry or date someone who cries all the time when you meet problems? Or disappears when trouble arises? Or will you prefer a man who stands up and say that he will get all this things cleared up and stand in front of you when adversity comes.
I am not saying that men should not cry. When you are facing a break-up or tough times, crying is natural, it helps you recover and help you to grow. If you need to cry do it, its a sign of strengths.
Emotional Attraction is something that is in short supply nowadays. There are many man out there who behave like they are able to take on the world but few truly do.
The idea of emotional stability is to take on the world by her side and taking care of her when issues arise. Humans have a fight or flight template in their minds. How you deal with problems is what a woman wants to see. If she throws you some curve balls when you are trying to pursue her, do you end up going against the challenge and win her or will you run immediately when you meet trouble.
Remember, your woman will test you before you get her, after you get her and continuously do it sub-consciously, because she wants to truly know if her man is someone she can rely on and trust.
A man who is able to handle himself well at work and in life is a good mate. Someone who is able to face the stresses of life by her side. A man who loves his family and have the support of his friends and family. A man who is not just her friend, her confidante but also able to counsel her in emotional issues when they arise. Be the shoulder she leans on when times are tough. That is the true emotionally stable Real Alpha.
Intellectual Attraction
We are currently in an economy that is slanted very strongly towards the intellectual. Gone are the days when the biggest and the baddest gets the meat home. The smartest, whether it is street smartness or book smartness will give you the advantage in life.
The good thing about intellect, you can actually work on it.
If you’re not that smart a person, read more! Read widely! Read often! Read something you will usually not get into just to gain more knowledge in it.
One thing about intellectual attractiveness is knowledge once gained cannot easily be loss unlike your body acquired from the gym which needs time and effort to maintain. Some woman really like the geekiness in some man because geeks that are very focus on that one topic he is keen on is very hard to come by nowadays.
Find out on social media what topics interest the girl you like. Read up more and learn more about it. Be truly keen to learn more about it and when you do get a chance to engage her, bring it up and impress her!
Social Attraction
Social Attraction is something many have not heard about. But let me bring out one example to make it easier for you to understand. Ever wondered why that boy who has dated the hottest girl in school seem to have no issues getting other girls? His social status was lifted because the hot girl “endorsed” him.
Humans are social creatures and as social creatures we have a silent hierarchy system in place. People who are placed higher in our social hierarchy are given more patience and given more leeway in getting away with things. And people who are higher up in our social hierarchy are also given more respect.
For a woman to feel attracted to you, she has to first respect you as a person. Ever wondered why someone can be rich but not have anyone. Whereas another man has lesser money, not flat broke but seems to be more popular with woman? The other man might have more friends or people who know him and speak good words of him. Social credibility is what helps woman filter out the good from the bad and this makes you either more attractive or less attractive depending on the circumstances.
You need not be rich or famous to have a higher social credibility. Be well liked by your friends and people around you and this should do the trick!
Attraction cannot be controlled
One thing i learn across the years, is that attraction cannot really be controlled. You are naturally drawn to something because it hits the right buttons. You have a certain template of what you like and don’t like and when you go around meeting people and doing things you naturally will filter and weed out the activities or actions that you are not inclined to.
Same for attraction, you are attracted to her physically then the rest of the attraction comes about. Without you knowing it, your mind is set that she is the one that you want to go for.
There are some mental models or markers that might affect how she thinks, for example race, religion, the community she is brought up in. But generally, this few forms of attraction works the same way.
What we at Real Alpha Mag will like to share with you is this. Focus on yourself, focus on being your best self because life is a never ending journey of improving to become the best version of yourself. When that happens, natural attraction will draw her to you. Cheers!
Real Alpha Mag is committed to helping men find true love and learning how to speak to woman and what attraction really is.
How attraction works 101
